Somatic Relational Healing, Attachment Repair, and Relationship Coaching

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My work supports transformation across the full arc of relationship: from healing the past to consciously creating change in the present. My Somatic Relational Healing works directly with the nervous system to shift the deep, implicit patterns that shape how we connect. Often formed in the earliest moments of life, before words, these patterns live in the body’s subcortical and limbic systems, unconsciously driving survival responses like fight, flight, or freeze, or anxious or avoidant, in our adult relationships. But you are not an attachment style: these are adaptive behavioral patterns, and they can be repatterned.

Through attuned, body- or felt-sense-based practices, we support the nervous system in moving from reactive subcortical states into the prefrontal cortex, where choice, compassion, and healthy connection become possible.

Sessions weave somatic healing, mindful presence, attachment repatterning, and relationship or dating coaching to bridge inner transformation with lived relational change. Whether you’re navigating dating, partnership, or healing from past dynamics, this work meets you where you are, helping you ground safety in the body, open the heart balancing boundaries with vulnerability, reconnect with intuition, and restore your natural capacity for deep, authentic, and secure connection.

Connect to yourself, others, and to life itself.

Our earliest relational patterns teach us how to balance closeness and protection. Healing means learning that safety and vulnerability can coexist.

  • It’s a sensory-based, neuroscience-informed approach to transforming the deep, often unconscious patterns that shape how we connect to ourselves and others. We work with the nervous system and implicit memories - held in the subcortical and limbic brain -to restore safety, regulation, and authentic connection, moving toward a more secure attachment style.

    This work can also help heal patterns of body tension, shame, or disconnection, supporting greater body confidence and a fuller, more authentic relationship to sexuality and intimacy.

  • Attachment styles are not fixed labels: they’re patterns of relating that developed as adaptive survival strategies in response to early experiences. Importantly, you are not your attachment style and most of the language on attachment in pop culture and social media has very much superficialized a very deep and rich topic.

    Most people have a mix of patterns that can show up differently in different relationships or life areas.

    The four primary patterns are:

    • Secure – Comfortable with closeness and autonomy; able to trust and be trusted.

    • Anxious (Preoccupied) – Tends to seek high levels of closeness and reassurance, often fearing abandonment.

    • Avoidant (Dismissive) – Tends to downplay closeness and rely heavily on self-sufficiency.

    • Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant) – Simultaneously desires and fears closeness, often feeling conflicted in relationships.

    Because these styles are adaptations, they are changeable. With somatic and relational repair, these patterns can work towards reorganizing for greater safety, flexibility, and secure connection.

  • Emotions are physiological. Notice how you feel butterflies in the stomach when nervous, tears rising when sad, heat in the face when angry?

    Somatic healing is based on the understanding that the body—not just the thinking mind—holds memory, emotion, and lived experience. When overwhelming experiences aren’t fully processed, the nervous system can get “stuck” in survival states like fight, flight, or freeze. For example, you may rationally know an event is over or a relationship wasn’t right, yet the body can still carry it viscerally until it’s resolved and reconsolidated.

    Through tuning into inner sensations and body signals, somatic healing allows the nervous system to complete what was interrupted, releasing stored patterns and restoring balance. This process works with the unconscious (where most of our experience is shaped!) so that change is not just intellectual but embodied, lasting, and real.

  • Trauma isn’t a pathology, but an adaptive survival response. Healing trauma means restoring safety so you can be present with yourself again. Presence is the gateway back to your true self, because trauma creates barriers to the heart, which is inherently self-healing.

    Trauma may come from acute events (“big T”) or from chronic, developmental, or relational wounding (“small t”). These survival strategies can become protective identities that mask the authentic heart. Healing supports the completion of what was once interrupted—stored impulses, emotions, and stress—so the nervous system can restore its natural flow.

    Not everything in us is a trauma response importantly but honoring the ways we once protected ourselves opens the path to safety, wholeness, and self-trust (and thus a guiding and stabilizing intuition). Even if you don’t identify with the word trauma, the same principles apply to grief, chronic stress, or unexplained tension: true healing means returning to the body and self, to presence, and to your innate resilience.

  • Each session is guided by attuned presence, gentle inquiry, and somatic techniques to track sensations, shifts in breath, micro-movements, and emotional tones. We might use resourcing practices, guided awareness, somatic tracking, expression techniques, or relational exercises to create safety and repair old patterns in real time.

    My sessions are exploratory & experimental and collaborative & confidential. The work is a mix of reflective self-inquiry with bodily connection.

    Like all my somatic work, my session process is: we listen, we feel, we integrate, and repeat.

  • Sessions are either in-person in New York City or online via live Zoom from anywhere in the world.

    Sessions are all 1-hour.

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Meet your practitioner

Welcome, I’m Susan Reis, an integrative somatic trauma practitioner in New York City. Having navigated my own experience with deep disconnection, I know attachment patterns are not fixed identities but living adaptations the body can repattern. My work honors the body’s felt sense as the gateway to healing and the heart as the source of connection, helping you restore trust, intimacy, and authentic relationship with yourself, others, and life. My relational healing sessions weave somatics, mindful presence, relationship coaching, and attachment repatterning to work with all of the edges to secure connection.

I’d be honored to support you on your journey.

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