
Somatic Relational Healing & Attachment Repair
My Somatic Relational Healing works directly with the nervous system to transform the deep, implicit patterns that shape how we connect. Often formed in the earliest moments of life, before words, these patterns live in the body’s subcortical and limbic systems, unconsciously driving survival responses like fight, flight, or freeze in our relationships into adulthood. But you are not an attachment style: these are adaptive behavioral patterns and they can be repatterned.
Through attuned, body- or felt sense-based practices, we bring these implicit memories into conscious awareness, supporting the nervous system in moving from reactive subcortical states into the prefrontal cortex where choice, compassion, and healthy connection become possible.
Sessions weave somatic tracking, somatic healing, mindful presence, conscious attention, relationship coaching, and attachment repair processes to dissolve physical bracing, soften protective strategies, and restore natural relational flow. I integrate modern nervous system science and attachment neurobiology along with transpersonal integration, ultimately expanding the sense of self beyond old roles and wounds so you can meet yourself and others from a place of security and wholeness.
This work meets you where you are and supports lasting change from the inside out: grounding safety in the body, opening the heart, reconnecting to our own intuition, and restoring the capacity at your core for deep, authentic, and secure connection.
Connect to yourself, others, and to life itself.
The relationship with self, largely formed from pre-verbal experiences, reflects outwards in our relationships with others.
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It’s a sensory-based, neuroscience-informed approach to transforming the deep, often unconscious patterns that shape how we connect to ourselves and others. We work with the nervous system and implicit memories - held in the subcortical and limbic brain -to restore safety, regulation, and authentic connection, moving toward a more secure attachment style.
This work can also help heal patterns of body tension, shame, or disconnection, supporting greater body confidence and a fuller, more authentic relationship to sexuality and intimacy.
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Attachment styles are not fixed labels: they’re patterns of relating that developed as adaptive survival strategies in response to early experiences. Importantly, you are not your attachment style and most of the language on attachment in pop culture and social media has very much superficialized a very deep and rich topic.
Most people have a mix of patterns that can show up differently in different relationships or life areas.
The four primary patterns are:
Secure – Comfortable with closeness and autonomy; able to trust and be trusted.
Anxious (Preoccupied) – Tends to seek high levels of closeness and reassurance, often fearing abandonment.
Avoidant (Dismissive) – Tends to downplay closeness and rely heavily on self-sufficiency.
Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant) – Simultaneously desires and fears closeness, often feeling conflicted in relationships.
Because these styles are adaptations, they are changeable. With somatic and relational repair, these patterns can work towards reorganizing for greater safety, flexibility, and secure connection.
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Somatic healing is rooted in the understanding that the body—not just the conscious, thinking mind—holds memory, emotion, and lived experience. Unresolved trauma or emotional overwhelm can remain in the nervous system as implicit memory until processed, quietly shaping how we feel, respond, and relate in daily life, often without our awareness.
Emotions are physiological. Notice how you feel butterflies in the stomach when nervous, tears rising when sad, heat in the face when angry? These are the body’s natural ways of processing emotion: responses that happen physiologically and viscerally, below the level of intellect alone.
But when experiences are too overwhelming or life interrupts the natural process, the nervous system can become “stuck” in survival states like fight-flight-freeze. Somatic healing supports the body in reharmonizing by completing what was once interrupted, allowing for release, resolve, and return to presence.
This work engages the unconscious, which we experience most vividly through interoception (our inner sensations) and proprioception (our sense of movement and position). Modern neuroscience confirms that the unconscious shapes the vast majority of human experience, and that lasting change happens when we work with these deeper layers directly. By using the body as the vehicle for awareness and integration (so not just as a set of movements or poses) somatic healing helps us access, process, and transform what words alone often cannot reach.
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Trauma isn’t a pathology, but is an adaptive, protective response wired for survival. Healing trauma means restoring a sense of safety so you can be present with yourself again. Presence is the gateway back to your true self, because trauma creates barriers to the heart, which is inherently self-healing.
While trauma can stem from acute events (“big T”), trauma healing work also works with chronic, developmental, or relational wounding (“small t”) - the subtle yet lasting ways we disconnect from ourselves to survive. These survival strategies become protective identities that mask the authentic heart.
True healing supports the completion of what was once interrupted: stored impulses, repressed emotions, and unresolved stress. As we meet those parts with compassionate presence, the nervous system can slowly restore its natural flow.
Not everything in us is a trauma response, and it’s important not to reduce ourselves to that. But by honoring the ways your body and psyche once protected you, you can now choose a new path, grounded in safety, wholeness, and self-trust.
Even if you don’t resonate with the word trauma or wouldn’t describe yourself as having acute trauma, you may still experience overwhelming emotions, chronic stress, suppressed memories or feelings, unexplained tension or chronic pain, or grief. Trauma science is really about how the nervous system holds and resolves these states, so the same principles of healing apply. Whatever the name, true healing means returning to the body, to presence, and to your innate resilience.
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Each session is guided by attuned presence, gentle inquiry, and somatic techniques to track sensations, shifts in breath, micro-movements, and emotional tones. We might use resourcing practices, guided awareness, somatic tracking, expression techniques, or relational exercises to create safety and repair old patterns in real time.
My sessions are exploratory & experimental and collaborative & confidential. The work is a mix of reflective self-inquiry with bodily connection.
Like all my somatic work, my session process is: we listen, we feel, we integrate, and repeat.
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Sessions are either in-person in New York City or online via live Zoom from anywhere in the world.
Sessions are all 1-hour.
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Meet your practitioner
I’m Susan Reis, a somatic trauma practitioner, certified hypnotist, and integrative healing guide based in New York City. My work is rooted in the understanding that our earliest relational experiences, which are often held in the body as implicit and visceral memory, shape how we connect with ourselves and others.
I integrate somatic healing, attachment science, and contemplative presence to help clients transform deep-seated relational patterns. Drawing on modern neuroscience, I guide the nervous system from subcortical and limbic reactivity into the prefrontal cortex, where clarity, compassion, and choice can flourish.
My approach honors the body as the gateway to healing and the heart as the source of connection. I hold a space that is attuned, safe, and collaborative, so you can reclaim your natural capacity for trust, intimacy, and authentic relationship — with yourself, others, and life itself.
I’d be honored to support you on your journey.

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