Somatic & Attachment Coaching
Reorganizing the patterns that shape, or prevent, how you connect, toward safe, secure, and authentic relating.
Our attachment system is not separate from our sense of self. It is how we learned to be in relationship, with others, with our own needs, and with the world.
These patterns begin forming before language, before conscious memory. Long before we could make sense of our experience, it was already being organized in the nervous system, shaping how we move toward or away from connection, who we choose, how we respond, and who we believe ourselves to be.
This work integrates somatic nervous system work, attachment repatterning, relational repair, and developmental coaching to work directly with these patterns at the level where they can actually change: in the nervous system, the sense of self, and the implicit memory that organizes how we connect before we get to choose.
You are not your attachment style.
These are adaptive patterns, and they can reorganize.
This work is right for you if:
Something keeps getting in the way of the closeness you want, but you know deeper connection is possible
Relationships repeat familiar patterns despite your awareness, but you are ready to change them
Intimacy feels complicated or effortful, but you sense a more secure and authentic way of relating
Conflict, repair, or vulnerability in relationships feels out of reach, but you want to change that
You are ready to build genuine capacity for intimacy, trust, and showing up fully in connection
Vulnerability and boundaries feel like opposites, but you want to find a way to hold both
Frequently Asked Questions
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This work combines somatic nervous system work, attachment repatterning, and psychosynthesis-informed developmental coaching to reorganize the implicit patterns that shape how we connect — patterns formed early, often before language, that organize how we relate before we get to choose.
In this work, we engage the nervous system and sense of self directly, building the capacity for safe connection and creating the conditions for lasting relational change.
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The attachment system formed in the earliest relational experiences of life and continues to be shaped and reshaped. It structures how we seek closeness, tolerate intimacy, respond to separation, and regulate emotion, often automatically and beneath the conscious mind. In intimate relationships, this often becomes highlighted, but the patterns are more broad than that and reflect how we relate to ourselves and life itself.
These patterns are wired in the autonomic nervous system and unconscious memory, which is why they show up so reliably in the present and in somatic cues.
Most people know the four styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized. But the labels have become reductive. You are not your attachment style. Most of us move fluidly between patterns depending on context, relationship, and nervous system state. The styles are useful maps, not fixed identities.
What matters more than the label is building the nervous system capacity and sense of self to meet connection without bracing against it.
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Within somatic healing and somatic experiencing specifically, body sensation is one of five channels, alongside images, behaviors, affect, and meaning, through which we access the unconscious. Prior to somatics, these were the five psychological functions of experience in psychosynthesis. While popular culture often reduces somatics to sensation alone or nervous system hacks, these can offer important relief but lasting change requires something deeper: a descent into the nervous system's architecture of self.
This is especially true for developmental trauma, which differs from acute shock trauma. It originates in early attachment disruptions that shape our very sense of self. Because it formed that way, it heals that way: slowly, relationally, and through the full architecture of experience, updating the 'I' and the identity through which all perception is framed.
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When experiences overwhelm our capacity to process them, the system organizes around protection rather than presence, forming implicit patterns beneath conscious awareness. This work operates at the level of the nervous system itself, not the body alone, but the underlying architecture through which experience, identity, and perception are actually organized.
Somatic and nervous system work are often used interchangeably, but they're not quite the same thing. In my work, we engage both: building a regulated nervous system and a coherent sense of self to meet experience with. This is not movement, fitness, or bodywork. It is capacity building work -
Much of what passes for somatic work in popular culture was designed for acute shock trauma and stays at the level of physical sensation. Neither reaches developmental or chronic relational wounding, where the self never fully formed or had to contract around protection.
Sensation is one of five channels through which implicit experience is accessed, alongside imagery, behavior, emotion, and meaning. And the soma itself includes not just the physical body but the emotional, cognitive, subtle, and relational self. Healing developmental wounding requires engaging the central nervous system and cortical architecture where the self, perception, and meaning are actually organized.
This is capacity building work. We meet what is implicitly present and create the conditions for gradual reorganization across every dimension of who you are.
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Sessions are available online via live Zoom from anywhere in the world. You need a private space you're comfortable in, a video camera, and internet access. Video must be on with the chest upward visible.
In-person sessions are also available in Midtown Manhattan, NYC, on select days with more limited availability and carry a small additional fee.
Meet your practitioner
About Susan Reis
I am an integrative somatic practitioner and developmental coach based in New York City, specializing in attachment repatterning and the nervous system patterns that shape how we connect. My work bridges nervous system science, developmental and identity work, and contemplative depth, supporting clients in reorganizing the implicit patterns that determine who we become in relationship, so that connection can feel safe, genuine, and chosen. I’m a certified Somatic Practitioner, DARe Practitioner, and completing an MS in Applied Neuroscience. I work with individuals online and in-person in NYC.
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