Somatic & Attachment Coaching
Reorganizing the patterns that shape — or prevent — how you connect, toward security, intimacy, and authentic relationship.
Core to my philosophy is that our attachment system is.…. our sense of self.
It may be disconnected, confused, or disorganized, but it can also be secure. To be secure is to feel whole.
Our attachment and relational patterns start forming in the earliest moments of life. Long before we were able to intellectualize our feelings, experience becomes organized unconsciously — manifesting from our bones and gut through to our behavior and our choice of partners — and gets internalized as our sense of who we are and how connection works.
This work integrates somatic nervous system work, attachment repatterning, relational repair, and psychosynthesis and developmental coaching to work directly with these patterns at the level where they can actually be reorganized: in the nervous system, the sense of self, and the implicit memory that organizes how we connect, relate, and act before we get to choose.
You are not your attachment style. These are adaptive patterns, and they can reorganize.
This work is right for you if:
Something keeps getting in the way of the closeness you want, but you know deeper connection is possible
Relationships repeat familiar patterns despite your awareness, but you're ready to reorganize them
Intimacy feels complicated or effortful, but you sense a more secure and authentic way of relating
Conflict repair or intimacy in relationships seems out of reach, or dating seems overwhelming
You want to show up more fully in connection with others and build genuine capacity for intimacy and trust
Frequently Asked Questions
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This work combines somatic nervous system work, attachment repatterning, and psychosynthesis-informed developmental coaching to reorganize the implicit patterns that shape how we connect — patterns formed early, often before language, that organize how we relate before we get to choose.
In this work, we engage the nervous system and sense of self directly, building the capacity for safe connection and creating the conditions for lasting relational change.
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Attachment patterns are not fixed identities or labels. They are adaptive strategies the nervous system developed in response to experiences of safety, closeness, and separation. Most people carry a mix of patterns that can show up differently across relationships and life areas.
The four primary patterns are:
Secure — comfortable with both closeness and autonomy
Anxious — tends toward seeking closeness and reassurance, often fearing abandonment
Avoidant — tends toward self-sufficiency and downplaying closeness
Disorganized — intense push-pull dynamics, difficulty regulating, and deep inner conflict
You are not your attachment pattern. These are adaptations, and they can reorganize.
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Trauma is not a pathology, but an adaptive survival response.
When experiences overwhelm our capacity to process them, the nervous system organizes around protection rather than presence. Healing trauma means restoring safety so unfinished responses can complete, allowing regulation, connection, and choice to return.
Not everyone has experienced explicit trauma. Similar protective patterns can also form through unresolved emotion, developmental adaptation, relational imprinting, and the shaping of identity over time, often outside conscious awareness. And not everyone who comes to this work identifies with trauma at all, many arrive from a growth-oriented place and find that these same implicit patterns, shaped by development, identity, and experience, are what limit their next layer of expansion.
For this reason, my work does not separate trauma resolution from developmental integration. As nervous system safety is restored and unfinished responses complete, presence, agency, and authentic expression emerge naturally.
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I am not a licensed therapist and work from a different model. I am a certified somatic practitioner, meditation teacher, and psychosynthesis coach. My approach is somatic, developmental, relational, and contemplative, and does not involve diagnosis or medical treatment.
This work operates from a different model, beginning bottom-up, engaging sensation, emotion, and the autonomic nervous system, and integrating developmental and psychosynthesis-informed work as capacity builds, so that changes are lived. Rather than therapeutic or behavioral correction, the focus is on creating the internal conditions for the system to reorganize itself and to grow forward, inspired by the future.
Most clients find their way here after other paths that have offered support in different ways. Sessions are responsive and individualized, and I will always communicate transparently if this approach is not the right fit.
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Sessions are guided by attuned presence, somatic awareness, and gentle inquiry, while tracking sensation, breath, micro-movements, and emotional tone as they arise, moving carefully between activation and settling so the nervous system can process at its appropriate pace.
The work is collaborative, exploratory, and always paced by what your nervous system can meet. Sessions weave somatic work with developmental and coaching-oriented reflection, so that what emerges can be integrated into identity, choice, and daily relational life.
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Sessions are either online from anywhere in the world via live Zoom, or in-person in NYC.
In-person sessions are in Midtown Manhattan on select days and carry an additional fee.
Meet your practitioner
Susan Reis is an integrative somatic practitioner and psychosynthesis coach based in New York City, specializing in attachment repatterning, relational repair, and the somatic dimensions of connection and intimacy. Her work bridges nervous system science, developmental coaching, and contemplative depth and wisdom, supporting clients in reorganizing the implicit or unconscious patterns that shape how they connect, so that relationships can reflect who they truly are. She works with individuals online and in-person in NYC.
